Here are a list of examples that I now see clearly as manipulation during my separation, child support, and child custody journey.
Using our daughter to get me to waive valuable assets
You will see by this chart that the only item I ask for some give on is my law firm. In my offer, I may have also asked for the condo.
Katherine Frye
So, basically you want me to sign away my rights to the two most valuable assets or it will hurt our daughter?
Catfishing To Sound Like The Victim
Frankly, I cannot afford to not receive the guideline amount of child support. My parents have been paying for things for her to help, but she is not their financial responsibility.
Katherine Frye
Someone that makes 3 times my salary can’t afford to take less than 1/4th of my living expenses? Even after she had me waive my claim to child support in the separation agreement.
Bargaining For My Property
Because you are willing to let me have the bed and mattress I purchased for Elle’s room, I am fine with your getting your golf clubs.
Katherine Frye
OMG thank you for allowing me to have my own property. I would like to also point out that she threw away $500 worth of hockey gear and god knows what else.
Collusion And Prior Relationship With Cherrypicked Therapist
Given the fact you have unilaterally inserted yourself into our daughter’s therapy and have effectively undermined the process for her, I now consider the task of starting family therapy to be an even higher priority. I will not, per your request, find someone who “won’t be biased toward me” because I don’t believe it is possible to accomplish.
Katherine Frye
She has a professional working relationship with this therapist who agreed with her that our daughter can make the decision to deny her father any custody.
An Uneven Playing Field
I do not agree with us speaking with one another as our primary means of communication about our daughter. Keeping things in writing will allow us to keep better track of what we have resolved and what remains open to be addressed. I remain concerned a phone conversation will be even less likely to result in progress, which is consistent with any phone calls or in person discussions that we have had in the past.
Going forward, if there is something you are looking for me to do, I need you to ask me directly. If you do not directly ask, I will not be doing anything.
Further, I need you to give me at least 72 hours notice. Any requests with less lead time might not work out on my end. I will do my best to make it work, but it won’t always be possible. With more notice, I can typically make adjustments to my schedule.
Katherine Frye
Sure seems like someone thinks they can dictate everything that happens, but acts like a victim when someone challenges her with that role. She refuses to be amicable and will only play ball in her preferred court setting.
Dictating Everything
You need to either get on board with parenting her with me and find a family therapist to help us all or be prepared to spend a great deal of money and time to have others handle this situation for you. Right now, I am questioning whether you are capable of handling this situation without others managing it for you.
Katherine Frye
I do want to coparent and have done everything I can to make it so. You are the one that refuses to communicate with me except through lawyer speak emails. You are the one who went awol for a month without contacting me or your daughter. You refused to offer any financial support while I had full custody of our daughter.
More Victim Mentality
For you to send the message you did on the very morning of the appointment stating “I assume you are bailing on taking your daughter to therapy” is highly concerning to me. This feels like a complete set up to me. Your follow up text communicating “Mother of the Year” is just cruel and completely unnecessary.
Katherine Frye
I have been nothing but amicable and professional. I do not resort to bad language and have continually said nice things about Katherine and addressed her cordially. I am sure she has heard much worse in her line of work.
Parental Alienation and Gaslighting
This happened after another incidence of Katherine cutting off the gas card. I do not budget for gas since the agreement holds her to pay for it during our daughter’s school years.
I thought I would ask since you haven’t seen her in weeks. Can I still have Easter weekend since my family will celebrate with her? Stop texting me in violation of the Order. It’s harassing. I did tell Elle that I couldn’t explain why you could not pay for gas especially since you had planned to take her to dinner. I told her I would have paid for gas and skipped the dinner. Your actions hurt no one but you because Elle is doing great. Each time you try to blame me for your lack of being self-sufficient it only helps her understand your issues better. Her therapist has been amazing in helping her process it all. We did end up going out for sushi and had a great time!
Katherine – 3/4/2024